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Listening comes first: adjust to the other’s needs without forgetting yourself, then choose together a direction that suits you both.
Sui, Following, is the hexagram of adapting: you follow what is right, and you are followed because you are sincere.
For you, Sui invites you to follow with discernment: adapt to the moment without losing your line and choose what deserves to be followed.
The flexibility of someone who adapts to circumstances, listens to others, and knows why they follow.
Following for the sake of following: clinging to what is easy or fashionable at the expense of what is right.
Sui speaks of following. Thunder rests beneath the lake: energy goes to rest, adapts, agrees to place itself beneath joy. The ancient text links great success to it, provided you stay upright and constant, with no blame to fear.
The hexagram does not preach blind docility. It says you can follow when you are sincere, and you are followed when you are worthy of it. Adapting is a strength, as long as it serves what is right.
Its lines stage the choices: whom to follow, whom to leave, how to say it, and when to stop.
Thunder in the middle of the Lake: energy settles as day falls. According to the commentaries, the wise person then goes home and rests, for following also means withdrawing.
Throw three coins six times: your hexagram, the lines that change, and the direction they point to.
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Listening comes first: adjust to the other’s needs without forgetting yourself, then choose together a direction that suits you both.
Adapting to a new framework or a new leadership is favored, as is rallying others by example.
The I Ching helps you reflect on how to act: it does not say what is coming.
The English names are the usual renderings of the Chinese characters; the texts rely on the Chinese and on early public-domain translations (Legge, 1882; Philastre, 1885–1893).
Hexagram 17, Sui, means following: adapting to circumstances with discernment, and being followed in turn through the sincerity of your conduct.
It is hexagram 18, Gu, Work on What Has Been Spoiled, which is also its inverse. One adapts to what comes, the other repairs what was neglected. The two are read together.