Program 16-9-20: Nobody
A fresh eye that dares to challenge established habits, and whose strength grows when conviction stays open to other points of view.
- fresh eye
- firm principles
- active listening
Program 16-9-20: Nobody at a glance
Faced with an absurd rule or a stuck situation, you see what others no longer have the courage to look at, and you find a way out. Your will is solid, your principles are firm, and your rigor moves forward projects others let bog down. Your frankness inspires trust.
A conviction that sets becomes dogma: you listen little, prepare your answer while the other speaks, and every concession feels like a defeat. Conflicts settle in at the office and at home, and those around you end up avoiding conversations. Try changing your mind once a week, out loud, without justifying yourself.
- The card 16
- XVI · The Tower
- The card 9
- IX · The Hermit
- The card 20
- XX · Judgement
- The position
- Programs
By Thomas Guilhot · updated
What this program carries
The method describes someone who often has to face an entire system, a society whose rules and customs do not suit them; two paths then open up.
Its strengths
Lived from strength, the program gives a fresh look at established habits, a talent for finding a way out of blocked situations, a solid will, firm principles, a sense of responsibility, and a rigorous organization that moves projects forward.
Where it can get stuck
Lived from weakness, the conviction that lets the person stand their ground hardens into dogma: they take their ideas to be the only valid ones, set aside facts that contradict them, and do not admit their mistakes. They listen little, wait for a pause to put in their word, and answer off the point. Every concession feels like a defeat, leading to conflicts at work and at home. They criticize without being asked and pursue an impossible perfection, demanded of themselves as of those around them, so that others end up avoiding them.
What helps
Practice active listening: let the other person finish, ask questions to grasp their point of view. Read authors whose opinions are far from yours and spend time in different circles. Before a criticism, check that it serves a purpose; phrase it tactfully, starting with what is going well and speaking about how you feel. Admit that a conviction may be incomplete and change your mind without shame. Aim for realistic goals, celebrate small progress, give way on the incidental to agree on the essential, and welcome other people’s feedback as material for improving.
In everyday life
In your team, a procedure seems absurd to you and you say so, rightly.
But at the next meeting, you cut off a colleague who adds nuance, and you feel eyes turn away. That evening, replay the scene: what did they say, what could they have contributed? The next day, begin with what is good in their proposal, then state your concern as a feeling, not as a truth.
A symbolic reading of the Destiny Matrix: food for thought about yourself, never a verdict or an established fact.
Go further
The Tower
The card of energy 16The Hermit
The card of energy 9Judgement
The card of energy 20Program 9-16-7: Silence
Another page of the same family that shares one of these energiesProgram 10-8-16: Plot
Another page of the same family that shares one of these energies
How is it calculated?
First calculate all the points of the matrix, then look at each line of three points.
Fictional example, March 14, 1987: the finance line brings together points c1 = 10, x2 = 11, and x = 19. These three numbers form program 10-11-19, “Burnout, flare-up.” Order does not matter: 19, 10, and 11 would give the same one. The karmic tail is not part of this search; it has its own reading. In all, this date carries nine programs, including 17-22-5 for the talents of the paternal line and 20-3-10 for the maternal line.
Frequently asked questions: program 16-9-20: Nobody
How can I defend my ideas without seeming to shut down the discussion?
State your point of view by saying where it comes from: experience, figures, the value at stake. Then ask the other person a question, and rephrase their answer before replying. This order shows you have listened. A solid idea does not need to be repeated louder; it stands up better to discussion than to insistence.
Is changing your mind a weakness?
No, it is a sign of solidity. Only a conviction that can be revised stays alive. If new facts contradict you, simply say: I have thought about it and I see things differently. The people around you gain trust, because they understand your word is not frozen and a real dialogue is possible with you.
How can I handle a demand for perfection from others?
Separate the essential from the incidental: three criteria for good work, the rest is preference. When you criticize, ask yourself whether it serves a purpose and whether your opinion was requested. Celebrate what moves forward, even imperfectly. Those around you give more when they feel recognized than when they feel judged.
Programs: the 22 energies
- Program
Program 9-6-15: Fairy-tale world, writer
An imagination that invents whole worlds and flourishes when it finds a language, a form, and an audience to share them with. - Program
Program 9-20-11: Disappearance of the lineage
The feeling of being the last link of a worn-out family, and the strength to become the one who picks up the thread. - Program
Program 20-3-10: Betrayed trust, motherhood
A tempered character that learns to place its trust with discernment, and to experience passing on life without inherited fear. - Program
Program 22-4-9: Lack of freedom
A need for living space that is smothered when too many rules are set, and that breathes as soon as the load is shared. - Program
Program 13-7-20: Danger on the road, in decisions
A foresight that protects loved ones and, well dosed, finally allows leaving, changing jobs, or moving to another city. - Program
Program 9-8-17: Hidden truth
A gap between the image given and the reality lived, which closes by confiding your truth to someone safe. - Program
Program 11-9-16: Putting oneself at risk
A powerful vitality that, weary of calm, can defy its own life, and that is reborn by choosing to rise again. - Program
Program 19-9-10: Pure flow
A limpid influence that lifts those who come near, and that asks for intentions as clear as the gift itself.
Illustrations: Nicolas Conver’s Tarot de Marseille, dated 1760, restored by Tarot World Project, CC BY-SA 4.0 license, via Wikimedia Commons — images resized and compressed by Versana.