Program 20-6-4: Confidentiality
A role as keeper: you are entrusted with information and secrets, and the wisdom lies in knowing what to say and what to keep quiet.
- discretion
- sorting information
- trust received
Program 20-6-4: Confidentiality at a glance
Trust comes to you although you never asked for it: colleagues, friends, or family confide information and stories, sure of their safety with you. This reputation for discretion makes you a precious confidant and opens doors in work and in relationships.
Sorting is not simple: a confidence let slip by accident can cost a friendship or a job, while useful information kept to yourself can deprive someone of help. Carrying alone everything that is left with you also weighs. Choose a neutral listener, bound to secrecy by their profession, so you can confide in turn what burdens you.
- The card 20
- XX · Judgement
- The card 6
- VI · The Lovers
- The card 4
- IV · The Emperor
- The position
- Programs
By Thomas Guilhot · updated
What this program carries
The method sees in this program the role of keeper: at work as in private life, the person is constantly entrusted with information and secrets.
Its strengths
The difficulty that goes with it is knowing what may be said and what must remain unsaid, what matters and what is incidental. Well lived, this role of confidant becomes an asset, since other people’s trust comes to them naturally.
Where it can get stuck
With no source on its pitfalls, we limit ourselves to a reading deduced from the title and from the definition the method gives. Without knowing how to sort, the person risks letting slip a confidence that should have been kept, at the cost of a friendship or a job, or conversely keeping quiet about information that should have been passed on. They may also feel weighed down by everything people leave with them, and no longer know whom to talk to about what concerns them.
What helps
These suggestions also follow from the program’s name. When someone confides something in you, ask clearly what can be repeated, and to whom. At work, find out about the discretion rules attached to your position and apply them. Before passing on information, ask yourself three questions: does it belong to me, is it useful, who could be hurt by it? Sort what you know between the essential and the incidental. And keep a neutral confidant, for example a professional bound to secrecy, to unload in turn what weighs on you.
In everyday life
A colleague slips you that they are thinking of leaving, asking for silence.
The next day, your manager asks you about the team’s plans. You hesitate: does what you know belong to you? Before answering, ask yourself three questions: is it mine, is it useful, who could be affected? Then answer simply that you cannot talk about it. One clear, polite sentence is enough, without lying or giving details.
A symbolic reading of the Destiny Matrix: food for thought about yourself, never a verdict or an established fact.
Go further
Judgement
The card of energy 20The Lovers
The card of energy 6The Emperor
The card of energy 4
How is it calculated?
First calculate all the points of the matrix, then look at each line of three points.
Fictional example, March 14, 1987: the finance line brings together points c1 = 10, x2 = 11, and x = 19. These three numbers form program 10-11-19, “Burnout, flare-up.” Order does not matter: 19, 10, and 11 would give the same one. The karmic tail is not part of this search; it has its own reading. In all, this date carries nine programs, including 17-22-5 for the talents of the paternal line and 20-3-10 for the maternal line.
Frequently asked questions: program 20-6-4: Confidentiality
How should I react when someone asks me to keep a heavy secret?
First clarify what you are allowed to repeat, and to whom. Remind them that you keep silent unless someone is in danger: in that case, it is better to speak to a qualified person. You have the right to say you would rather not carry this. Setting these limits from the start protects the relationship.
Should my partner know these confidences?
Your couple rests on trust, but some secrets belong to others. Explain simply that you promised discretion on this point, without details. A person who loves you generally understands that a confidant stays reliable because they do not repeat everything. If the gap turns into distance, bring it up frankly, gently, and without blame.
How can I lighten what others leave with me?
Give yourself a space too: a friend who knows nobody in your circle, a professional bound to secrecy, or a notebook nobody else reads. Set time limits: a heavy conversation ends with a walk or a break, not with the next file. Knowing how to say no is also a form of listening.
Programs: the 22 energies
- Program
Program 9-6-15: Fairy-tale world, writer
An imagination that invents whole worlds and flourishes when it finds a language, a form, and an audience to share them with. - Program
Program 9-20-11: Disappearance of the lineage
The feeling of being the last link of a worn-out family, and the strength to become the one who picks up the thread. - Program
Program 15-21-6: Excess of pleasures
An uncommon appetite for life, which becomes real richness when it learns to choose its pleasures instead of piling them up. - Program
Program 17-5-6: Beauty
A natural radiance, of face or heart, that touches others and grows when the person puts it at the service of a project. - Program
Program 20-3-10: Betrayed trust, motherhood
A tempered character that learns to place its trust with discernment, and to experience passing on life without inherited fear. - Program
Program 22-4-9: Lack of freedom
A need for living space that is smothered when too many rules are set, and that breathes as soon as the load is shared. - Program
Program 22-4-8: Lack of freedom in the face of the system
In the face of rigid frameworks, a thirst for air that finds its way by refusing commitments that bind too tightly. - Program
Program 13-7-20: Danger on the road, in decisions
A foresight that protects loved ones and, well dosed, finally allows leaving, changing jobs, or moving to another city.
Illustrations: Nicolas Conver’s Tarot de Marseille, dated 1760, restored by Tarot World Project, CC BY-SA 4.0 license, via Wikimedia Commons — images resized and compressed by Versana.