Karmic tail 18-6-6: Love magic

In this life

At the same time, the search for love gives no rest: it is impossible to find calm or to tell authentic feeling from the rest. It is as if an outside voice had to confirm: “Here at last is strong, shared love.” According to the method, the wound often dates from childhood, from a lack of affection received from parents or family. The child grows up with a grandmother or a nanny, sometimes far away, or the parents are often absent and work without counting the hours. Later, touch takes a central place and stands in for proof of love: on coming home, the partner must hold, reassure, and caress. Anything that comes between you and the relationship stirs up hostility, including your own child. In men, according to the source, the pattern weighs more heavily: when the partner is expecting a child, and again after the birth, the couple drifts apart and affairs appear. At the slightest feeling of not mattering to the other, you go looking for someone new, moving from one person to the next. The many choices are rarely the right ones, and your own actions end up closing around you like a trap.

The lesson

According to the method, order matters: offer love first, and only then expect it. Asking without giving amounts to drawing on the other person’s energy, which is equivalent to the old love spell. The recommendation is to settle with a single person, to notice what is good in them, to listen to them and to understand them. It also invites you to stop lying to yourself and to express as well as receive affection by every means, without reducing it to touch and skin sensations.

In doing so, they attract situations that end in disappointment and seem to prove that they are worth less than others.

The signals

• A sense of lacking parental love
• Unrequited loves
• Emotional codependency
• Constant emotional ups and downs
• Heart fragility, according to the method
• Love life that has become an obsession
• Solitude that cannot be accepted
• Partners who follow one another
• Apathy, a depressive mood
• Mistreatment suffered
• The idea of sacrificing everything for love, even your life
• Emptiness and melancholy inside
• Constant demands for proof of love
• Infidelity
• Jealousy
• Fear of losing the partner
• Fear of loving and of receiving love

When the urge to ask for something rises, you look for what you can offer. You choose a single relationship and commit to it, looking for what is good in the partner, listening to them, and trying to understand them. You stop telling yourself stories about your real motives, and touch is no longer the only accepted proof. If the idea of sacrificing yourself, even your life, takes hold, it is better to confide in someone you trust quickly or to call one of the crisis lines listed on this page, many of them open around the clock.

The steps

• Before asking for affection, offer some
• Notice the moments when you draw on the other person’s energy
• Commit to a single partner
• Note one of your partner’s qualities each day and truly listen to them
• Express and welcome love in ways other than touch
• Tell yourself honestly what you are looking for in the relationship