Karmic tail 9-3-21: Jailer

In this life

The person knowingly lends to someone who, they know, will never be able to repay. Or they do such a considerable favor that nothing comparable can be offered in return. The recipients feel bound, and this debt creates a deep energetic attachment between them and the person. The person draws from it an impression of power and superiority: under the appearance of kindness, the help becomes a tool of influence and a way of obtaining more. This can happen without being aware of it; the effect remains the same. According to the method, the wheel turns one day: money, comfort, authority, and standing in society may disappear. The person then claims what is owed from those they once “spoiled,” but these people have understood what lay behind that generosity and move away. The more the person insists and hardens their tone, the more their situation deteriorates. If the emotional pressure exerted on others continues, the method indicates that health may in turn decline, to the point of severely restricting mobility.

The lesson

The first rule set out by the method: do not help someone who has asked for nothing. Help is reserved for truly serious situations, and it is given expecting nothing in return, neither money nor recognition. Even when their own affairs are going badly, the person inwardly erases every debt owed to them. Those they have supported are released from any moral obligation, and the person stops claiming more than the return already obtained. Finally, they avoid placing anyone under their dependence in order to savor the upper hand it brings.

The person often finds themselves in a position to manipulate, restrict, direct, and watch over others, then ends up trapped in turn when circumstances rein them in.

The signals

• Ties of mutual dependence
• Relatives subjected to prohibitions and an overwhelming authority
• Surveillance carried out within the family
• Physical or psychological violence
• Looking down on others from above
• Others humiliated and put down
• Outbursts of anger and aggression
• Relatives affected by illness
• Personal health that holds you back
• Restricted freedoms, loans to repay
• Relatives who are manipulated
• People treated as resources to be used
• Career advancement at others’ expense
• Fear of falling ill
• Fear of running short of money
• Fear of losing one’s possessions
• Run-ins with the administration or the tax authorities
• Others drawn into ties of dependence
• Pleasure in directing, controlling, and restricting others
• Circumstances that keep shutting you in
• Domineering parents who watch every move
• A thirst for power never satisfied
• Power used abusively
• Difficulty influencing those around you appropriately

Before offering a loan or a favor, you wait for a clear request and check that the situation is truly serious. What is given is given with no strings attached, material or moral. You make peace with your debtors, even in hard times, and give back their freedom to those you have supported. No relationship is built on dependence anymore: the pleasure of holding someone gives way to an exchange between equals.

The steps

• Wait for an explicit request before any loan or favor
• Reserve your help for truly serious situations
• List your debtors and inwardly erase each debt
• Stop reminding anyone of what you have given them
• Spot a relationship where the other person depends on you and give them back their autonomy