Family may come back to the fore with Judgement: reunions, explanations, and a fresh look at what is handed down.
These years may help you make peace with your story. Understanding where you come from, talking with relatives across several generations, and recognizing what you wish to keep or transform bring clarity. A sense of calling, the feeling of waking up to what matters, may follow.
Old family stories sometimes revive reproaches or heavy loyalties. Feeling like a judge or being judged, dwelling on the past, or imposing duties on yourself that are not really duties risks exhausting you. Speaking simply about your needs, and accepting that each person sees things in their own way, calms exchanges.
By Thomas Guilhot · updated
A period marked by the 20 often brings the family back to the foreground.
Ties with parents, siblings, and the extended family may call for attention: a gathering, an explanation long put off, a possible reconciliation. It is sometimes the moment when old patterns appear clearly, because a current situation too closely resembles a story already lived in the family. What had been set aside may return, and you may have, this time, the distance needed to look at it differently. These years also invite taking stock and awakening. You count up what has been built, you see what must change, and fundamental decisions become possible: changing your work setting, going back to training, taking on a wider responsibility. Administrative procedures and dealings with institutions may gain importance, as may reputation. Your role during these years: to link the generations and restore order where it is lacking. You may be called upon to settle a family file, accompany an aging parent, speak at an event, or organize a family reunion. Areas that may be at stake: parents and ancestors, inheritance and estate, papers and administration, career and reputation, spiritual life, public speaking. Practical advice: visit your parents or their relatives more often; update your identity documents, contracts, and tax returns; write your goals with the possible risks opposite; use the period to forgive an old offense rather than to chew it over.
A birthday brings several generations together, a photo album comes out of a drawer, a conversation with a parent lingers on memories never told before.
During a Judgement period, these moments might carry particular weight. Listening without deciding, asking open questions, noting what moves you: these gestures weave bonds. Sometimes the wish to set a clear limit, gently, also arises, so that family remains a support and not a burden, for every member of the household.
A reconciliation with a parent or a sibling
A conflict revived by the division of family property
Possibilities, not a prediction: no period announces a certain event.
The peaks of the ring reuse points you already know: age 0 the portrait, age 10 the paternal corner, age 20 the talent, age 30 the maternal corner, and so on up to age 70.
Between two peaks, you add to find the midpoint, then repeat for the quarters. On the fictional example of March 14, 1987, you find 14 at birth and 17 at ten. The midpoint, around age 5, is 14 and 17, making 31, reduced to 4. Around age two and a half, 14 and 4 give 18; around age seven and a half, 4 and 17 give 21.
Family often holds a large place in it, but the climate touches more broadly on the feeling of being called to a new start. A change of vocation, a life review, or a wish to pass things on may also come out. Each person decides where to direct their attention during these years, depending on their situation.
Choose a calm moment, speak for yourself rather than accuse, listen without interrupting. Accepting that some differences remain lightens exchanges. If dialogue is too difficult, a neutral third party or mediation can help. The goal is not to be right, but to regain a bond you can breathe in, one that is lasting and sincere.
A child may be very attentive to the family atmosphere, to the stories of elders, to changes in the home. Explaining simply what is happening, including them in family gatherings, and answering their questions about their origins helps them feel connected and secure, throughout this stage.
Illustrations: Nicolas Conver’s Tarot de Marseille, dated 1760, restored by Tarot World Project, CC BY-SA 4.0 license, via Wikimedia Commons — images resized and compressed by Versana.