Strengths and watch points, in six dynamics
Dialogue, emotions, attraction, values, daily life, the long term: for each, a strength and a watch point, with no score.
Dialogue
Strength No unspoken things: both say what they think, with humor, and appreciate being answered with the same candor.
Watch point Unfiltered candor can hurt; two people who talk fast sometimes forget to gauge the effect of their words.
Emotions
Strength Shared optimism helps get through rough patches: one lifts the other with a joke or a plan to get away.
Watch point Heavy emotions are avoided on both sides; a sorrow can go unanswered for lack of someone to receive it.
Attraction
Strength Desire feeds on novelty and play: unknown places, shared experiences, conversations that spark curiosity.
Watch point When routine sets in, each may look elsewhere for the stimulation of discovery, without telling the other.
Values
Strength The search for meaning, tolerance, and freedom of thought form a base of convictions largely shared between them.
Watch point Two fiery certainties about a philosophical or political question can turn a dinner into a debate stage.
Everyday rhythm
Strength The house stays open, lively, full of books, road maps, and souvenirs brought back from faraway trips.
Watch point No one thinks to pay the electricity bill on time; a minimum of shared organization avoids the reminders.
The long term
Strength Renewed projects, a new language, a country to discover, a training course, keep the relationship moving.
Watch point Without a fixed point, two independent paths can gently drift apart; a regular appointment keeps the common course.